I don’t like you, I don’t want to live with you

Yes, those are words straight from my sons mouth.  Aimed at me.  For what?  I can’t quite remember.  Something silly like… I wanted to turn right and you turned left.  Toddlers.

You hear those mommy stories of the first time they tell you they hate you, the first time they say I don’t love you anymore – but those conversations do nothing in the name of preparation.  It still stings.  Bad.

That day in the car he said he didn’t want to live with me, I asked him where he would like to live.  He said, “Uncle Rich’s.”  So I pulled over, put the car in reverse and turned around.  (Thank God he didn’t call my bluff because no way was I actually driving to Uncle Rich’s house.)

He asked me if I would stay there with him – no.  Would I come back later to get him – no.  And he immediately panicked yelling, “I love you!  I love you!  I love you!  I want to live with you!”  And of course, he never had a choice. 

I was not at all prepared for this to start so early.  I mean, middle school?  High school?  Of course!  But my three-year old baby?  No way.  He mostly has such a sweet disposition with me and we have a very snuggly, lovey relationship.  So for him to say he doesn’t like me, was odd. 

I know that he’s just trying to express himself and with a small toddler vocabulary, telling me he doesn’t like me is the way he was saying he was upset.  But seriously, that burns.

If this is life with a child that’s only been on the planet three years, what in God’s name am I getting into when he’s fourteen??  I don’t even want to imagine that.  I should start preparing future punishments now.  I’m going to need them.

Liz is a just a mom trying to keep it real about how little she sleeps, how often she gets puked on and how much she loves them. You can find her here every day writing about real-mom moments.


  1. says

    Thank you for sharing! I remember saying similar things to my mom, thank goodness she didn’t believe me. I’m sure my kids will say the same to me one day. You make a good point that he was trying to express himself, and you handled it perfectly!

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