I’m only human.
Even though I love my children more than anything in the world, I make mistakes sometimes. I get too upset over an accidental spill and lose my temper, or accuse my son of something his sister actually did. I wish I could always get it right. I strive to get it right. But I don’t. Because I am human and I am flawed.
And I actually think that’s a good thing.
It’s good because we have the opportunity to show our children first-hand how to respond when we act in a way that is disappointing and not a good reflection of our true self.
So I tell them I’m sorry. Because I am sorry and they should know that. And I want them to know that apologizing with sincerity and actively trying to do better is important. That they shouldn’t be stubborn and firm and incapable of seeing their own wrongdoings. That they shouldn’t be too embarrassed to say I’m sorry.
In parenting, we’re often encouraged to “stick with your guns” and “not back down” and in a lot of instances that’s true. Saying no to a candy bar for half an hour and then giving in isn’t always a great idea. But apologizing for something you regret should never fall in that category. Apologizing to any other loved one or friend would be encouraged, why should our children be treated different?
Most importantly in life, I want my kids to know how much I love them and admitting fault and humbly asking for forgiveness shows love in a profound way.
My intention is to never have to ask for forgiveness. I want to do it all so perfectly that the opportunity never arrises, but as long as I’m living I will continue to make mistakes from time to time, I’m certain of that. So each time I do, I hope I will always have the capability to see it and the courage to say I’m sorry.
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