After you’ve been married a few years and the kids have come along, it’s very normal for some of the romance in your relationship to take more of a back seat to the practical tasks that have to be done on a daily basis. Of course, just because something is “normal” doesn’t mean you have to settle for it. Why settle for a marriage that is ordinary, when you could have a marriage that is romantic, fulfilling and extraordinary?
If your marriage has been a little lackluster lately, today’s a great day to spice things up a bit.
15 Ways to Put More Romance in Your Marriage
1. Find out what your spouse considers romantic: Whether you spouse needs flowers, a back rub or a night out, you aren’t going to get very far if you do all the wrong things.
2. Relive the good old days: Retell all your favorite old stories or visit places you used to frequent when you first started dating.
3. Don’t overlook the small things: Not only should you make more of an effort to DO the small things–you should make an effort to notice them too.
4. Flirt: Sexy compliments, winks, touches, peeks… all the things you used to do to get him going.
5. Set aside a regular date night: No matter how much you love your children, you need some alone time away from them too.
6. Be intentional: Romance doesn’t happen automatically. Every day, ask yourself, “How can I best love my spouse today?”
7. Get help: One of the biggest detractors to romance for moms is feeling too tired after a long day with kids. Have your husband help out, or hire a sitter or cleaning lady part time as needed.
8. Make your bedroom a sanctuary: It’s hard to relax when your room is full of work, kids’ toys or electronics. Clear everything extra out.
9. Make your spouse a priority: Everyday, 100 things are going to fight for your attention. Remember who and what matters most.
10. Banish mood busters: What things are mood killers for you? How can you eliminate them?
11. Find a common interest: You can’t lead separate lives and then expect to reconnect at the end of the day. Romance should involve shared hobbies as well.
12. Seek counseling if you need it: You will also struggle with romance if you’re still holding on to past baggage. Don’t be afraid to get help if needed.
13. Quiet interruptions: Whether it’s your schedule or the dog, what things always interrupt your time with your spouse, and how can you better manage them?
14. Take care of yourself: Forgetting to shower or brush your teeth and living in sweatpants and a ponytail hardly sets the mood for romance. Change before your husband gets home at least.
15. Don’t give up: A life of romance doesn’t happen overnight. If you have a bad day–or even a bad year–don’t give up. Keep trying. You made a commitment to each other.
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Teacher turned work-at-home mom, Brittany loves using her words to help people improve their faith, marriage and parenting. And with one awesome husband and two very rambunctious little boys, she’s always got a lot to say! In addition to writing for Love and Marriage, she also owns her own site, Equipping Godly Women, where she regularly shares helpful tips, tricks and encouragement to help women be the amazing women God created them to be.