After you’ve been married a few years and the kids have come along, it’s very normal for some of the romance in your relationship to take more of a back seat to the practical tasks that have to be done on a daily basis. Of course, just because something is “normal” doesn’t mean you have to settle for it. Why settle for a marriage that is ordinary, when you could have a marriage that is romantic, fulfilling and extraordinary?
If your marriage has been a little lackluster lately, today’s a great day to spice things up a bit.
15 Ways to Put More Romance in Your Marriage
1. Find out what your spouse considers romantic: Whether you spouse needs flowers, a back rub or a night out, you aren’t going to get very far if you do all the wrong things.
2. Relive the good old days: Retell all your favorite old stories or visit places you used to frequent when you first started dating.
3. Don’t overlook the small things: Not only should you make more of an effort to DO the small things–you should make an effort to notice them too.
4. Flirt: Sexy compliments, winks, touches, peeks… all the things you used to do to get him going.
5. Set aside a regular date night: No matter how much you love your children, you need some alone time away from them too.
6. Be intentional: Romance doesn’t happen automatically. Every day, ask yourself, “How can I best love my spouse today?”
7. Get help: One of the biggest detractors to romance for moms is feeling too tired after a long day with kids. Have your husband help out, or hire a sitter or cleaning lady part time as needed.
8. Make your bedroom a sanctuary: It’s hard to relax when your room is full of work, kids’ toys or electronics. Clear everything extra out.
9. Make your spouse a priority: Everyday, 100 things are going to fight for your attention. Remember who and what matters most.
10. Banish mood busters: What things are mood killers for you? How can you eliminate them?
11. Find a common interest: You can’t lead separate lives and then expect to reconnect at the end of the day. Romance should involve shared hobbies as well.
12. Seek counseling if you need it: You will also struggle with romance if you’re still holding on to past baggage. Don’t be afraid to get help if needed.
13. Quiet interruptions: Whether it’s your schedule or the dog, what things always interrupt your time with your spouse, and how can you better manage them?
14. Take care of yourself: Forgetting to shower or brush your teeth and living in sweatpants and a ponytail hardly sets the mood for romance. Change before your husband gets home at least.
15. Don’t give up: A life of romance doesn’t happen overnight. If you have a bad day–or even a bad year–don’t give up. Keep trying. You made a commitment to each other.
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