Since about week 5 of marriage, I have been struck with a grueling bout of the baby fever. I am consumed by this incredible need to procreate. I have cravings for babies like one might have a craving for a cigarette. I want to cuddle every baby I see and am jealous of all the woman who are walking around with their bellies bulging out. I read pregnancy blogs, look at cute nursery decor, and dream of what color eyes our baby will have.
My justification for it, is that by spending so much time learning about every little thing, I will be oh so prepared for pregnancy. I already feel like I could damn near be close to passing for an OBGYN. Ask me anything about pregnancy, I bet I know the answer.
I know that this is the way I was built, how God intended it to be. Women want babies + men want sex = the world continues to populate. So how much of it is instinctual? How much of it is just the overwhelming number of pregnancies and women feeling like shit, I better hurry up. I think I forget sometimes that its okay to have a baby when you’re older and that you don’t have to start pumping them out at the age of 20.
Does anyone else have baby fever? Had baby fever? How soon after getting married did it start?
Sher Bailey is a writer in the Midwest who believes the power of humor, Mod Podge, and grandkids can fix most problems in life. You can find her at SherBailey.com.
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Thanks for becoming “follower” of my blog. Yes, I too sometimes get days (or weeks) of Baby Fever. My husband has to remind me that we’re young ande we need to enjoy life when we’re this age and not be tied down. I found that making a list of things I want to accomplish before babies helped (like travel to Europe, get promoted, etc.). But I love reading the preggo blogs too!
Cute blog, I love it!
And to answer your question… Me, me, me! I have baby fever =)
We’ve been married for almost 5 years and the fever started about 2 years into the marriage. We decided to wait a bit and started trying 1 1/2 years ago… still waiting for that miracle, but I know its all worth it.
Can’t wait to keep reading your journey!
Well baby fever hits sometimes, and then an event will happen or we will stay out late at a bar with friends or sleep in late on a saturday and I am reminded I am not ready for a baby as much as I want one….my husband tell people right now we are in the “practicing” stage… hahaha
I have 3 girls and a step daughter. So 4 girls in total. I am a stay at home mom and although it may be stressful sometimes to have multiple kids… the stress is not nearly enough to keep baby fever away. Sadly enough, none of my girls were planned. This is the first time I have actually wanted a baby. And I yearn for one so bad that it is effecting my marriage; our sex life, our closeness, our ability to have fun and engage in daily conversation. All because after a year of this feeling, I finally told him and he did not share the feeling at all. I am afraid this will mever go away, our marriage will be ruined, and ultimately…. there will be no more babies. I only want one last chance. I even agreed that after this, one of us could “get fixed” (since 5 children will be plenty lol). Its to the point now where I am so depressed about it and cry every night! Anyone have suggestions?!
I am in a very similar situation as you. I am 33 years old. I have 3 children from a previous marriage ages 15 13 and 4. Their father to put it mildly sucks and will most likely never be in their lives. I am currently with the love of my life who does not have any children. We’ve been together for two years now. Baby fever started about a year ago and is worsening by the day. To make things worse I’ve had complications with birth control so I am not currently on any. His feelings on the baby topic are very back and forth making my head spin. One day it’s “maybe some day” yet another day it’s “I’m fine with not having one of my own” and the classic “I don’t want to plan for it but I’d be happy if it happened on its own” but now that I’m off birth control he’s scared if he looks at me wrong I might just magically become pregnant do or sex life is not fun at all. I personally feel he’s too afraid to admit he is ready enough (let’s face it no man is ever 100percent ready) for a child that we’ll wake up next to a baby! It’s getting to the point where my mood is down and I’m feeling depressed enough to seek help from a therapist. I’m not super old but I’m not a spring chicken. I’m afraid he’s not going to admit he wants a child until it’s too late.
My baby fever has been so bad lately :O My husband and I have been together for 4 years now and been married for a year. I am currently not on birth control and about a month ago I swore I was pregnant. Needless to say af came and I got really depressed. And now I can’t stop psycho analyzing my body and praying that we are. I know right now is not exactly a great time and I know we’re still young but now my brain can’t get off this baby fever.
I have been together with my fiancé for 1 year, I got pregnant last year September I would’ve been due any minute now but due to complications (they run in the females in my family) I had a miscarriage, and now all my classmates , friends almost everyone I know has a baby. And it hurts it really hurts. I have the worst baby fever to ever exist but I won’t be with him until the end of the year since his away for work.
I was ovulating couple of days ago n even thought of just sleeping with anyone for the sake of baby.
It’s getting worse by the minute I cannot wait until this darn year comes to an end
I have had baby fever for 3 years now and I still believe that my purpose on this planet is to be an amazing wife and mother. I’ve never been more sure of anything. I believed I was pregnant multiple times, but AF came and it broke my heart every time. I can relate so much to what you’ve said. Good luck, girl!