When I got pregnant the second time around, I was really hoping for a girl. I had a boy already, so one of each would be just perfect, right? Well, instead, I ended up with a second baby boy, and let me tell you–I couldn’t be happier. I love being a boy mom!
Why I Love Being a Boy Mom
1. Dressing Them is Easier (and Cheaper!) Girl clothes are cute, but boy clothes are quick and easy! I tell my 5 year old “find some jeans and a shirt” and he can assemble a perfectly matching outfit and get dressed all by himself. No dealing with hair bows, princess costumes, tights and an endless battle every time we go to the store. For the most part, he’s content in whatever.
2. They’re Fun. My boys are just about as silly and rambunctious as they come. They love running, screaming, putting toy drills in each other’s belly buttons… (don’t ask). Basically, they live life at full speed and they have a blast doing it!
3. They Remind Me to Not Take Life So Seriously. If I yelled at my boys every time they were rambunctious or dangerous, I wouldn’t have a voice left. They are boys. I should have chosen “rambunctious” and “dangerous” as their middle names. (Seriously, it would have been perfect.) Instead, I’ve learned (or, rather, I try!) to focus on the big stuff, and not worry so much about the little details.
4. I Worry Less. Speaking of worry, I love that I don’t have to worry as much with boys. My boys are very rough and tumble. If they fall off the couch, they laugh and keep playing. If they get dirty, they don’t even notice. They’re too busy having fun.
5. I Laugh More. And of course, all this fun they’re having helps me have more fun too. I mean, how could I not join in?
6. Boys Love Their Mamas! Now, I’m sure girls love their mamas too, but from what I’ve heard, there is an extra special love between mothers and sons. And let me tell you, I feel it. Even though my oldest probably thinks dad’s more fun, and my youngest is a total daddy’s boy, whenever they are sick or in need of comfort, it’s all mom for sure. And I love that.
Teacher turned work-at-home mom, Brittany loves using her words to help people improve their faith, marriage and parenting. And with one awesome husband and two very rambunctious little boys, she’s always got a lot to say! In addition to writing for Love and Marriage, she also owns her own site, Equipping Godly Women, where she regularly shares helpful tips, tricks and encouragement to help women be the amazing women God created them to be.
Love this! I have 3 boys and so incredibly grateful. I thought I wanted a girl but I don’t think I could do the princess thing all the time. We are constantly on the go, rough housing, getting dirty and the list goes on. Boys rock!!!
Stupid. It’s attitudes like this that perpetuate gender bias. I do all these things and more with both my girl and boy.
This is her opinion. If you do not like it then do not read it! There is no need to say this piece of writing is stupid. Stop being grumpy, no one likes a grump!
Welcome to the Internet. Same could apply to you, don’t like her opinion then move on.. I agree somewhat With her.. How does this author know she laughs more with her boys if she has never had a girl? Girls can be just as fun and easy going, it is all depends on who THEY are. I have known boys that are so uptight and are not easy, and girls that could not be easier. It is her OPINION, just as you say it is the authors, don’t be a hypocrite.
I think you’re a feminist who’re disdained for being a girl. I can understand the pain. But that doesn’t mean you would comment some stupid stuffs out of your pathetic life. Sucker!
I agree with you. I mean this is basically saying: For girls you have to care even about small mistakes; Girls would cry if they would fall from a couch; Girls would cry if they made themselves dirty and who says that a girl cannot wear a shirt and a pair of jeans.
Being an all girls mom, or a mom of boys and girls would have made here just as happy, I am sure.
And to lin, why should we stop reading and overlook what we don’t like. In what kind of society would we live, when no one would critique anyone.
There is a difference between critiquing and being rude. If your daughter/son came to you with an opinion, would you say… That’s stupid. That is what is wrong with today. I kind of hope not.
In MY OPINION… THAT is what is wrong with today. People don’t think twice about HOW they say things.
You are right… not all girls do princess things. Not all girls cry if they fall off the couch. Yes girls wear jeans and a shirt. But in reality, probably the majority of girls like princess stuff. Probably the majority of girls like dresses. The majority of girls will have their hair done in ponytails and or braids some days. THAT IS NOT BAD.
But as a mom of 3 boys who thought she wanted a girl. I realize now that I don’t think I was made to have a girl. I am a girl who dislikes princess stuff with a passion. Who does not do girly stuff with my own hair and body. I want to puke when I think of MYSELF playing dolls or barbies. And that is not bad. Just like your daughters not liking it OR liking it IS NOT BAD.
Being made to have girls or a mix is not bad. It is AWESOME that we are made for different things. We get the chance to raise our kids with respect and morals that the future will be proud to have. Hopefully)
So I happen to agree with this post. And I happen to agree that people can be upset with this post. But I also happen to think that so much of human interaction is now held behind a computer screen, people have lost the filter that we need to pass to future generations. Do we want to teach we can say anything in a rude way because they are online? I don’t think you would hear a person at a restaurant talking to someone about their opinion and just walk up to them and say that is stupid. We are teaching cyber bullying. And I don’t think we talk to our kids that way. And I am sure we don’t want other people talking to our kids that way.
So why can’t we just all get along and be polite. We are all different. We all have different opinions. But this is just my opinion. 🙂
I can’t believe grown women are getting so uptight over this.
Very well said Heidi!!!! Kudos to you, I have 3 boys and oh how I dreamed of a little girl, I love my boys and would not trade them for nothing. And in my opinion they are much easier (I have cared for my friends 2 girls!!).
June Osborne says
Your assumptions are seriously harmful, and I hope you win a Darwin Award. Yeah, I’m okay with the full implication there.
Honestly? You are getting pathetically het up about a cute little article about how this mom loves her sons. Get a life.
I believe you can do all those things with a girl as well as a boy. I was a tomboy growing up and didn’t care about all that princess stuff. Not every girl is a girly girl.
I have one of each and they play roughly together. I’m glad I have the kiddos I do. My son has more of a bond with his dad and my daughter with me… So I don’t see that special bound you are talking about with boys and their moms.
Yeah I have to say this is a little offensive to girls in general…I have two girls that can out rough-house, out play a boy any day. AND they like to dress up as a princess once in a while, so it’s the best of both worlds. They make me laugh, I have fun with them and why would we worry more about a girl? They are pretty darn capable of playing and climbing on things just like a boy is. And saying that moms and sons have a stronger/special bond that moms of girls don’t??? REALLY?? I think the bonds moms have with ANY CHILD is just as strong or special…but it’s attitudes like this that make for awkward in law relationships later on when your sons get married…just saying. My girls choose me when they are sick or hurt too, that isn’t anything out of the ordinary… So, I understand this is YOUR OPINION, but it’s actually pretty rude 🙁
well I think girls are amazing!
I absolutely love them. I’m a teacher and I can tell you firsthand boys are just as whiny as girls ( even more so from what I’ve experienced) and girls can be just as tough as boys. Im always dumbfounded when people make a snarky comment that they feel bad for someone if they have a girl. my husband and I wanted a girl ! and we wonder why girls have no self-esteem when they hear that garbage. I have a daughter and our bond is incredible. I have 5 nephews who are all wonderful, but I can’t imagine not having my daughter. I feel extremely blessed and love every minute of it . 🙂 I think you have to have a daughter to truly understand this though.
Do you know http://www.123kidsplay.com ?
See you soon Karine
This article is not called why being a mother to a boy is better than being a mother to a girl…let’s relax. She is writing about how being a mom to her boys makes her happy. She wanted a girl for goodness sakes and this might be a way of dealing with how her life turned out. She is happy and these are the reasons why. Her life with a daughter may have made her happy for the same or different reasons. I do not think her goal was to be rude. Relax…think of it from her perspective a bit
I am really tired of this whole gender neutral agenda being pushed on society. It’s really an attack on males. We are no longer allowed to celebrate our gender
Uniqueness. She is just happy to have BOYS and so am I. Our children are not born eunuchs. Get over this whole idea that everything is an attack on gender. SHEESH!
BTW Thanks for the article. It made me smile 🙂
Thomas Boyer says
Everything you say about boys is true. We are so blessed with a four year old son. Our daughter is thirteen. So happy I caught this post, opened my eyes, too use to daughter drama. I get knocked down and I get back up again. Nothing’so gonna keep me down!
Before I had children, I envisioned myself t be the mother of a little girl. I dreamed of how I would dress her up and fix her hair. Then… I had children, two boys. I could not be happier!!! I love my boys with all my heart and soul. No, I don’t get to “play” dress up or fix hair, but I get the best hugs and kisses. Little boys love their mommies fiercely!!!! I am so blessed.
Love this. Im a mother of both a little girl and a little boy! And I can tell you there is a difference between the girls and the boys. My daughter is an all around daddys girl, she doesn’t want anything to do with me, she just wants her daddy. My son on the other hand is the complete opposite, he wants his mommy and not his daddy. I know what bond you are talking about with mothers and sons!!! To everyone who is getting their panties in a bunch over this, its time to grow up, this is an article about why SHE loves being a mom to boys…..emphasis on SHE not you or me…..this is her opinion which she is entitled too. Stop trying to make everything about you, Brittany just wanted to share the triumphs of being a mom to a boy, and she got it pretty spot on!
If you are a mother to only girls, then why would you even click this article and read it? Obviously looking for something to be mad about. The people complaining sound bitter that they didn’t have boys….gender disappointment I guess 😉
Ok people you do notice who wrote this is a female right, she is not against girls, the best comment i read is she didn’t say boys better than girls, i came from family all girls and now i have 3 boys i love it.
I don’t have any children. I found this article terribly offensive.
This article is implying that all girls are uptight, high-maintenance, shallow, delicate crystal flowers when that is not the case at all. In fact, the only thing that was accurate about this article was that girl’s clothes are more expensive than boy’s clothes (but hey, that’s true for grown-ups too).
Lisa J. s says
I have a son, but found her article to be offensive as well. The author unknowingly embodies sexism towards her own gender in a way that makes me feel sorry for her.
I loved it This is like i wrote it , i wanted a girl second time and had a boy and hole article is word to word what i feel . love it
all I ever wanted was a child,,after five miscarriages we were delighted to have a son followed by two more sons with a miscarriage in between. I am just so thankful to be a Mammy…… I now have the most gorgeous granddaughter ever . love my boys but girls rock!
I thought it was funny how she thinks that girls take forever to shop. I have 3 girls and let me tell you my nephews are the ones who take over an hour to pick a tshirt! ! my girls are easy going, they play sport and don’t cry when they fall down… I know this women loves her son’s and I would love any gender child I was blessed with. but her generalisations about girls come from someone who doesn’t have girls.!!
I have 3 boys who are easy going. That being said I believe girls can be just as easy going. I love my boys for so much more than just because they’re boys. Every child brings something special of their own to a household. Had I had 3 daughters maybe there wouldn’t be 5 hockey bags stinking up the garage, but maybe I would have had bathrooms full of make-up. Either way we adapt and we love our children for who they are…beautiful individuals finding their way with our guidance.
I am pretty sure this mom did not mean to stir up controversy, however as soon as she compared boys to girls, she opened that door. I have two boys and two girls. Honestly, they each have their own unique personalities and even bond with each other in different ways. I have loved being a mom to each of them … they have each blessed my life. I am sure this mom appreciates the powerful love she has for her boys and just desired to share how wonderful her life is because of them. In the future though, maybe she could consider not comparing (as she has no idea of how it really feels to have a daughter … and as she has hopefully learned from this: even seemingly innocent comparisons are not “innocent.” I do not believe she meant to imply that moms of daughters don’t experience the same fierce love; but none-the-less by comparing in the way she did; she did offend some). We as moms need to be supportive of each other. I support this mom’s joy and her realization that she isn’t missing out on that joy simply because she wasn’t chosen to be a mom of girls.
Agree completely. This author is making comments and assumptions about what she simply doesn’t know. She doesn’t have a daughter.
I really think she was just writing this article to talk about the things she loves about her boys! But, to all the people who are reading this and don’t believe that there are characteristics and personality differences between the majority of boys and girls you must of spent your life living under a rock! Boys and girls are born different and not just based on what is between their legs! Yes there are not many girls who fit completely into the “girl” category and not many boys who fit completely into the “boy” category. And it’s ok either way! Why is it wrong to say a girl is acting like a girl and a boy is acting like a boy and vice versa? It’s not!
I absolutely love this! We also though our second child was a girl! We were so excited picked out a name, was even calling him by that name! We went and got our ultrasound done and turned out to be a little Samuel! We were so excited! Baseball soccer wrestling basketball all the fun sports and having a baby brother to play with! We love both are boys so much and wouldn’t trade them for the world!!
I have 3 boys and I love them so much. I always wanted a girl. I wanted to be able to shop with her, have our nails done and play with princess stuff. I know she might not of been interested in those things but I thought a girl would be great. I am grateful for my 3 boys and I appreciate the article. I do have to say there is never a dull moment in my house.
I completely agree with you.
Plus taken I am a Christian, I believe the right kind of upbringing a child is raising girls to be girls and boys to be boys.
I was blessed with both…..1 daughter (oldest) and 2 sons. They are all grown up now but each time I was pregnant I didn’t care what I had as long as they were healthy. I’m glad I have both. My daughter was as tough as her brothers. When she got tired of playing dolls with her little friends, she was out riding her bike off ramps with the boys. One nice thing about having a daughter though is she liked to go shopping with me or to an art festival where my sons would balk! As they grow up and have families of their own I think girls stick closer to home whereas sons tend to go more towards their wives families. That is not to say they don’t have a “special” love for their own mothers, they do! My daughter now has 3 little boys of her own and she likes being the ” princess” in her house…..so she says! And I love being a grandmother of 3 boys….but waiting for that granddaughter…..maybe one of my sons will some day!
I have two boys and a girl and for most part of that you were describing my daughter. Grace, whose 3 loves dresses and changing outfits, but will do that all independently, don’t have to fuss and she’s as loud and fun and crazy as they come, more so than my boys. And getting dirty is her favorite pass time! Hehe. Love all my bubbas.
Girls are princessy and boys are rambunctious. How reductive and sexist is that?
That’s so sexist! I was a tomboy aswell! Had fun with both my mom & dad! Didn’t cry when fell down etc! I’ve got to say, we all have to be very grateful of what God blesses us with…girls or boys! Had a miscarriage aswell & I’m epileptic & on chronic medication. I now have a perfect & healthy 4 month old daughter! Is it a Boy or girl, either or, it certainly comes out as a pearl! STOP COMPLAINING!
Good for you !
I have 3 girls and I have your feelings with my girls. I think how you raise your children ( boys or girls) is the most important thing.
I gave my daughters self confidence and independence. I have strong girls and powerful personalities but also pritty faces and sassy looks.
Love what God gave you and enjoy it this is my phelosophy ?
I loved this article! I had 2 boys before I got my girl and I love being a mom to boys AND my girl! My boys are both grown and they still love their mama fiercely! My daughter is now 15 and we are becoming best friends. She shares all of her secrets with me and since I go to bed very early (I go to work at 5:00am) she spends the last half hour of my day on my bed talking, playing her ukulele for me or showing me silly videos, posts or texts between her and her friends. It’s become a sweet time for us both. Hooray for sons and daughters!
As a dad of two boys, I can totally relate. Upon my wife’s second pregnancy, I was kind of hoping for a girl. However, I couldn’t be happier having two boys. Bathroom breaks are way easier. Less hair to worry about, too (especially in school where there’s always the threat of live… ugh). My two are as rambunctious as they come. They love to climb and jump off stuff. They’re forever wresting each other. They’re only 8 and 4, so I can only imagine what will happen in the years to come!
So true!! I have 5 boys! I am new to blogging (have a lot to learn)and came across your website! Love it!! I love this article!
It all comes down to personality. I work in a pre school and some boys whine more than girls do. Some girls play rougher than boys. Some boys like to wear tuttus!!!! Many of the boys love the color pink and like princesses and play in our dollhouse. Lol! It’s all good. No need to compare. Daughters are a blessing and so are sons.
Absolutely I was blessed to have 4 boys!! They have grown up to be loving caring strong men…I do believe boys now a days have a path in life that does not give them all the encouragement they need … girls/ women’s voices to have equalityseem to have put a shadow on boys… I know I’m a woman .. perhaps some would say I should be standing out there with others .. but I’m standing for boys.. I believe in them & all they can be .. & stand in defense of them knowing they are most special life’s gifts.
Gender equality mama says
As a mom of a son and daughter, I feel that both genders are beautiful and a gift. It’s silly to think a boy somehow loves a mom more than a girl. Just not true. It heart melts when either child looks at me. I honestly feel sorry for the author of this article. Her comments reflect misogyny and some degree of loathing for her own gender. I was lucky to have a mom who embodies immense strength and wisdom and never treated me poorly just because I was a girl. I have so much respect for her- she always treated me and my brother equally. My brother has grown into a man too who has tremendous respect for women. Lastly, I agree with others here that the author is commenting negatively on experiences, such as raising a daughter, which she simply doesn’t know.