He came to my bed again last night.
Reluctantly, I lifted the blanket and let him in, a little irritated that he was back AGAIN.
It’s the third night this week and he’s nine-years-old for goodness sake.
Then he wrapped his arm across my body and laid his small face on my chest.
And I quickly remembered…. I remembered that very, very soon he will never come to my bed again.
Not just that he will come lay with me less, but that he stop coming to lay with me altogether.
He already needs me far less than he used to. He has already changed so much from my the baby who only wanted mama.
Which is good, because that’s what he’s supposed to do. But my gosh, it happens so fast.
One day he won’t get scared at night. One day he won’t want me laying him. One day he won’t live here.
So I’ve decided I’m going to lay with them until I can’t anymore. I will keep lifting my blanket and keep pulling them into the warm bed next to me until they stop showing up.
Because I know for sure that they will stop showing up.
And I know for sure when that happens I’ll be sad and I will regret not taking every single opportunity to snuggle those little people.
So come on to my bed, little babies. I’ll save you a place as long as you want it.
♥
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Liz is a just a mom trying to keep it real about how little she sleeps, how often she gets puked on and how much she loves them. You can find her here every day writing about real-mom moments.
Love this. People who won’t let their babies in their bed are missing out imo. Time flys and before you know it, they are teens. Agree with everything.
(You May want to rewrite the second sentence in the ninth paragraph.)
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This touched every part in my mama heart. We were sleep training our 2 y/o out of our bed and every single night she’d end back cuddled up with me. I always moved her back to her toddler bed after her dad got home for awhile – she passed away April 2018 2 months before her third birthday. Part of me hopes she would of cuddled us until age 9. I often wonder how independent she would be . As laying here I’m sick with the flu now bawling my eyes out, this story really just made me smile & think of my special girl. Thank you for that. I hope you enjoy all the snuggles- fun fact: my brother is 21 and still cuddled with our mom. 🥰 ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t evan imagine the pain. She s a little angel in heaven though!
My 11, almost now 12 year old boy snuggles every night. We read together, then I sing a few songs. Sometimes he’s talkative, sometimes go right to sleep. It is precious cuddle time as he gets close to being a teen who won’t want Mom anymore!
The correct verb for is “lie.”
“I will lie with my kids. . . .”
“Lay” is the past tense of “lie.”
“Lay” is the present tense when used with a direct object:
“I lay my baby down.”
Embarrassing to see this English usage mistake brayed in a huge headline!
My daughter slept with me until she was 20. Not because she had to, she had her own bedroom. But as a single working mom bed time was OUR TIME. To talk about our day, her plans and dreams, all that teenage angst.
I got married when she was 20 and OUR TIME ceased.
Now Im 70 and I love knowing that her 16yr old and her 23yr old boys continue to sometimes crawl in bed with not only their mom but with dad too.
It brings about a neverending bond and closeness that I feel is lacking in some of todays families.
I agree with your post as I have a 22 son and 18 year old daughter and thought I was done having kids. I even forgot how quickly they grew up and fast forward to now I have a 5 year old baby boy who still wants to come into our bed in the wee hours of the morning and you know what “I let him”. Time passes so quickly and he really won’t need or want to snuggle with me as often. Hence I let him snuggle, talk and play with me. I enjoyed my older two and my Nate will always be my baby..
The last time I spent the night in bed with one of my kids she was 18, leaving for university soon and in turmoil. I was so glad that she wanted to talk to me about it and even happier that I was able to comfort her.It wouldn’t have happened if hadn’t established a relationship that said that even in the middle of the night I was available.