In high school I used to have this little notebook that I carried around writing different lyrics, quotes, mantra’s etc. in. I was a dork. BUT, I love a good mantra. I love having something to quietly chant to myself. When Brady was a newborn and I was so tired and couldn’t ever get him to sleep my mantra was, “This too shall pass.” When I was in the hospital with Paityn, it was, “Better me than her.” I also have a marriage quote I live by.
If you’re looking for inspiration, here are my top five favorite marriage quotes.
1. “If our bodies are sick, we seek to heal them. We do not give up. The same thing should be true of our marriages.” -Elder Dallin H. Oaks.
2. “A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” -Ruth Bell Graham
3. “The most desired gift of love is not diamonds or roses or chocolate. It is focused attention.”
4. “If it’s important to her, then it’s important to me.” -Greg Provance
And for my most favorite marriage quote, my marriage mantra, if you will, by C.S. Lewis:
5. “Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life. It is a noble feeling, but it is still a feeling. Now no feeling can be relied on to last in its full intensity, or even to last at all. Knowledge can last, principles can last, habits can last but feelings come and go. And in fact, whatever people say, the state called ‘being in love’ usually does not last. If the old fairy-tale ending ‘They lived happily ever after’ is taken to mean ‘They felt for the next fifty years exactly as they felt the day before they were married,’ then it says what probably never was nor ever would be true, and would be highly undesirable if it were. Who could bear to live in that excitement for even five years? What would become of your work, your appetite, your sleep, your friendships? But, of course, ceasing to be ‘in love’ need not mean ceasing to love. Love in this second sense — love as distinct from ‘being in love’ — is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by (in Christian marriages) the grace which both partners ask, and receive, from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other; as you love yourself even when you do not like yourself. They can retain this love even when each would easily, if they allowed themselves, be ‘in love’ with someone else. ‘Being in love’ first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. it is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it.”
Quick Idea: Make your hubby or wife feel like a million bucks every day for the next year! Take a look at this printable 365 Love Texts Kit from The Dating Divas. I love having an easy way to keep the spark alive during my crazy busy days.
Liz is a just a mom trying to keep it real about how little she sleeps, how often she gets puked on and how much she loves them. You can find her here every day writing about real-mom moments.