I love my husband dearly, and I know he loves me… but the place to show that is not Facebook.
Sometimes you see a happy couple on social media that posts photos and sweet notes over and over and think… wait, should I be doing that?
Am I not showing in a loud, public way that I love you? Am I doing something wrong?
Just like everything on the internet, we tend to compare ourselves.
But I have science on my side to tell you this:
Posting gushy love on FB is not a good measure of a relationship.
In fact, the people doing all that oversharing are probably unhappy. The studies show that people anxious about their partnership are more likely to remind others via public displays.
The more secure your relationship, the less you feel the need to post about it.
Studies also show that people who brag about their relationship on social media have lower self-esteem.
It seems like people that are happy and secure aren’t trying to prove anything.
I know for certain that my husband loves me and I don’t ever need a Facebook post to tell me that.
♥ I see his love when he makes me coffee.
♥ I see his love by the respect he shows me.
♥ I see his love by his caring for our family.
♥ I see his love in clean dishes and folded laundry.
I’m not saying that you should completely avoid any and all mention of your partner on social media. Not at all.
Besides, I screamed from the roof top last year that we made it to ten years of marriage. (Hey, that was a big deal.)
And of course post photos of the adventures we have as a family.
What I’m saying is it’s not important to make that part of your relationship and that it doesn’t mean the people posting regularly are any more happy than you are. In fact, it’s usually the opposite.
So, stay true to you and post what you feel like posting. No comparing. ♥
Liz is a just a mom trying to keep it real about how little she sleeps, how often she gets puked on and how much she loves them. You can find her here every day writing about real-mom moments.
I love this!! Great reminder that your relationship is personal and doesn’t need to be talked about publicly for others to know how you feel, because the point is that each of the two people in the relationship know how you both feel, and that’s what matters most.
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