In the theme of Love and Marriage I’ve decided to come up with some general topics to talk about. Today I’d like to get your opinion on this question:
Would you want to know if your spouse cheated?
I know there isn’t a single one of us that ever wants to deal with the infidelity topic but realistically there is a good chance we will have to one day, and that sucks. Cheating spouse statistics confirm that 50 and 70 percent of married men (between 38 and 53 million men) have cheated or will cheat on their wives. Don’t you just hate statistics? Uck – I despise them. It’s like predicting an awful future. You just wait, he WILL cheat on you, it says.
So if it happened (I prefer to say IF and not when) would you want to know or just continue living your life unaware? Off the bat it seems like a dumb question, I mean, duh, of course I want that information! But there is a portion of individuals out there that think the opposite; what I don’t know won’t hurt me. I’ve also heard the theory that the decision depends on the action. For instance, if it was a one time mistake that didn’t mean anything and it won’t happen again then why not just let it go and let me live my life happily. There is no reason to completely turn my world upside down and cause me an incredible amount of pain for nothing.
But to me it isn’t nothing. It’s SOMETHING. I want to be in charge of the information I know and what I do or don’t do with it. This my life and if my spouse cheated? I would absolutely want to know. That doesn’t even mean I will immediately leave (it also doesn’t mean I won’t) but it means that I will make that choice. Me. I’m in charge of my choices and no one else ever should be. For me, I feel like not knowing and being kept in the dark is incidentally someone making my decision for me and that’s the part I am not okay with.
What do you think ladies?? I’d especially love to hear what people think that have been in the situation before. Feel free to write your own blog post on the subject and link back here!
Sher Bailey has been a dedicated voice for the Love and Marriage blog for over a decade, sharing practical advice on everything from stretching a grocery budget to finding the best homeschooling resources. She writes from the unique perspective of a full-time traveler, living and working on the road in her motorhome alongside her husband and their two cats. Sher’s diverse body of work is fueled by her belief that with the right tools and a little creativity, any challenge can be turned into an opportunity for growth and adventure.
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