After handing me art paper after art paper with nothing but one lonely crayon scribble, Brady’s (very sweet) preschool teacher said, “He’s not very artistic.” I quickly told her that was fine. It is perfectly OK that he’s not enthusiastically artistic. He is an incredible little boy with a million and one abilities and perhaps art projects isn’t one of them. (Right now at least – who knows what his feelings towards art may later be).
Sometimes Brady likes to wear nail polish. On occasion he asks to wear his Batman mask into a restaurant. Paityn refuses frilly hair bows and wants to wear sneakers with dresses. All of these things are part of who they are and all of them are OK with me.
I catch myself sometimes placing certain boundaries on my kids and who they should be, like telling Brady that nail polish is only for girls or refusing him the pink Halloween basket. I never feel good about those choices in hindsight and looking back I always wish I would have chosen to say yes. Yes to them being able to choose freely exactly who they want to be. Who they already are.