Texting your teen with these thought out ideas is a fantastic relationship booster.
A positive relationship with our kids is so important, and one of the ways we boost that is by “making deposits into their emotional bank account”. You’ve heard of that before, right?
The Gotten Institute says parents should aim for a positive-to-negative ratio of 20 to 1. That’s a lot of positivity!
Since teenagers are busy at school, practices, hanging with friends, etc. you can make quick deposits with these text messages.
The looking forward text.
Everyone loves looking forward to something and this tells them you can’t wait to spend time with them.
- Can’t wait for the game on Friday – I love watching you play!
- Excited to watch the new Star Wars movie tonight!
- I can’t believe it’s such a nice day, our bike ride is going to be great.
The thank you text.
Expressing gratitude is a great way to show love and brings people closer together.
- Thanks for remembering the trash this morning.
- You were so sweet to your sister this morning – thanks for being such a great brother.
- Thank you for bringing so much laughter to this house!
The choice text.
The older they get the more control they want to have. Offer that to them so they don’t need to try and take it.
- Movie night! Should I rent X or X?
- Do you want to do a bike ride tonight or walk the trails?
- Dad and I are planning a family trip next weekend. What do you think, should we go to the lake or to the theme park?
The notice text.
This shows love by noticing the small things they think are unnoticed. It also works as positive reinforcement so they’ll be more apt to repeat the behavior.
- I saw you washed your car – it looks great!
- You studied so hard last night, I’m proud of you.
- You were so kind to that boy at school. You’re a great human.
I love these ideas so much. How simple is it to connect with your child in such a simple and effective way!
Make these your own and use them often. I hope you’ll use these to help bond with your teenagers. ♥
Liz is a just a mom trying to keep it real about how little she sleeps, how often she gets puked on and how much she loves them. You can find her here every day writing about real-mom moments.